Ever been blindsided by an emotion that seemed way out of proportion to what triggered it?
You’re not alone.
For many of my neurodivergent clients, emotional dysregulation isn’t just a side effect—it is the experience. A slight rejection, a misunderstood comment, or even a shift in tone can feel like a storm surge. And because ADHD affects planning, inhibition, and attention, it makes sense that regulating emotions would be tough, too.
Gilly Kahn, M.A., Ph.D. breaks it down beautifully:
Emotion regulation is not just about “calming down”—it’s about pausing before reacting, soothing the body, and choosing your next move with intention.Three simple (but powerful) moves she suggests:
Step away from the trigger – physically shift your space or activity to get off the emotional hamster wheel.
Soothe your system – breathwork, mindfulness, or even drawing can help downregulate.
Problem-solve when calm – only then is your brain ready for clarity and perspective.
Sometimes, it’s not about fixing the feeling—it’s about making space for it to pass without letting it hijack the moment.
Curious—how do you catch yourself before a reaction becomes a regret?
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